I’m speaking to females in this because ya’ll are the ones who I see do this. Anyways, you guys tend to make lists of what you want.
i.e:
- tall
- intelligent
- rich
- dress nicely
- whatever race you like
and then you get detailed; he’s gotta be …
- into the same music as you
- like the same food
- play the same sports
- dress in a way that compliments your style
Catch my drift? And often times your list starts to consist of traits and things that YOU like/have. So at the end of the day, you’re asking for a dude who is JUST like you.
And when a nice guy comes your way, but lacks the majority of things on your list, you’re hesitant. You have the nerve to not even give him the time of day and keep searching for what you want. When what you want doesn’t add up to what you need. There’s nothing wrong with having standards. I have them, but only two. He has to be a gentleman and he has to be literate. But he doesn’t have to love hip hop like I do. He doesn’t have to rock the same clothes as me. He doesn’t have to love sushi and mint chocolate chip ice cream like me. He can be tall, short, black, brown, yellow, white, I don’t care.
Because at the end of the day it’s not about what you want. If someone makes you feel a way that you’ve never felt before, and you like that feeling; that’s all that matters. Someone to make you happy in the purest form is rare. You can make all the lists in the world but they will not make the “perfect” guy come to life. Only in your mind.
I love your posts.
if you don’t like somebody, then you don’t like somebody. end of story. giving someone a chance ( or “time of day” ) that you don’t like always ends up messy with someone hurt. you’re actually giving that person a favor by not “trying it out”.
